If the only reason you’re having them is to serve as insurance for your marriage.
If the only reason you’re having them is to fulfill the social burden of the current norm because that’s what constitutes a picture perfect portrayal of happiness.
If all you’re going to teach them is the best form of life is having a good job.
If the only reason you’re having them is because other people want you to have them.
If you’re just going to treat them as “display” to look pretty.
If you only value them as far as how much other people will value them.
If one or more of the above hit you, then money made you.
If one or more of the above reminds you of your parents but not quite resonate with you, then it’s because one of the underlying factors in your upbringing was financially driven. News flash: you probably measure people up (heavily embedded) based on credentials, based on how much they make, based on their social stature, based on their external realities.
People say that a sign of a well developed nation is not when the poor can drive cars, but it is when the rich take public transit.
I think maybe a sign of a nation with a well developed social structure and one of spiritual wealth is when an average citizen and/or someone whose financial social status can converse well with homeless people.
When money and materialism is at the helm of ones priorities, the only thing that matters is that of a fat bank account… Not the dream nor innovation but one of greed.
If this is you: don’t have kids.
If you were raised this way, break the cycle, let your children be themselves and let them find their own paths.
Love them as they are and not for who you’d prefer them to be.
If they rebel from you, take it as a good sign, that they’ve managed to own their own mind and think for themselves. If all you want them to do is obey: then you’ve taught them how to be a slave.
Don’t limit your child to your learning for they were born in another time.
PS. Slavery still exists in first world countries – on a psychological level this time. People are slaves to money and conformity.